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20 Lessons Learned in 2020


I still can't quite comprehend everything that has taken place over the course of this year. But, here we are like always at the end of the year reflecting back on lessons learned. This reflection does feel slightly different for me as I'm sure it will for a lot of people. For one, I've been in a constant cycle of reflection due to how much time we've had on our hands during lockdown in addition to realising the grandeur things in life that deserve more attention than I had previously been willing to give. I don't want to 'leave 2020 behind me' because I believe that what happened in 2020 will propel us forward as individuals and as a society ... only if people want to commit to that.

Here it is .. 20 things that 2020 taught me some through very difficult lessons when I wasn't ready to learn.

  1. Your health should take priority over anything else at all times. Working towards having all of your aspects of health aligned is the best form of self-care there is.

  2. Therapy will change your life if you're willing to allow yourself to be vulnerable.

  3. Vulnerability isn’t weakness. If people make you feel weak, there is something wrong with the dynamic of that relationship.

  4. What you learn during your childhood will undoubtedly show up in your life as an adult, it's time to connect the dots.

  5. If you doubt your capabilities, it wont make anyone trust your capabilities any more.

  6. You don't always have to be grateful to other people for achievements you have earned through your hard work. Give yourself credit.

  7. Stand in your truth, always and have your own back, always.

  8. Learn to tell the difference between sincere and empty apologies.

  9. Things can change in a flash, revel in every moment you have on this earth.

  10. Intentions mean nothing without actions.

  11. What people do and say to you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their perspective on life.

  12. Setting your boundaries is one of the best things you can do for your peace of mind.

  13. Living in fear won't make your life any more tolerable, do what you want if it makes you happy and doesn't hurt anyone in the process.

  14. Compromise and sacrifice are two very different things with a very thin line between them. Understand which one you choose.

  15. You don't have to control every single thing around you, the world doesn't work like that & you’re just going to give yourself a headache.

  16. There's toxicity in excessive online positive culture, it's okay to feel down without needing to immediately get out of the funk.

  17. If people want to help you, let them. You cannot do everything in this world on your own.

  18. Just like you, other people will make mistakes. Learn to be okay with that. No-one is perfect and you're doing yourself a disservice for having this expectation.

  19. It's incredibly important to recognise how you speak to yourself and the energy you bring into your own spaces.

  20. People will treat you how you teach them to treat you, stop allowing bad behaviour.


It has been a hard year for everyone so in all honesty, I just want to big you up (yes you) for just getting through it in one piece. I'm proud of you! Thanks for coming along on this journey with me for the past few months, I've really really enjoyed getting back to writing and being creative again. I'm excited for what's to come without any expectations (because we know where that got us last year 🤣). Make sure to like, subscribe and let me know some of the lessons you learned, I'm so interested to know!


Happy holidays and wishing you all an incredible year ahead!!!


Until next YEAR,


D x

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